Attachement Healing

Attachement healing, transforming your relationships

I specialize in attachment-based healing — supporting adults who feel stuck in patterns of anxiety, distance, over-giving, emotional shutdown, or relationship confusion.

If you’ve ever thought:

“Why do I push people away when I actually want closeness?”
“Why do I panic when someone pulls back?”
“Why do I feel too much… or nothing at all?”
“Why do I keep repeating the same relationship dynamics?”

You’re not alone.
And you’re not broken.

Understanding Your Attachment Style

When we seek love, support, and comfort, we do it through patterns that were shaped early in life.

Your attachment style — secure, avoidant, anxious (ambivalent), or disorganized — is not a flaw. It’s a blueprint your nervous system created to help you survive and stay connected the best way it knew how.

But what protected you in childhood may now create tension in adult relationships.

You may:

Long for closeness but fear losing yourself
Crave reassurance but feel overwhelmed by your emotions
Value independence but struggle to let someone in
Feel confused by your reactions in love

These patterns don’t just live in your thoughts.
They live in your body.

Why Insight Alone Isn’t Always Enough

You might already understand your attachment style.

You might know where it comes from.

And yet — your body still reacts.

Your shoulders tense.
Your breath shortens.
You feel guarded, anxious, or suddenly distant.

Attachment wounds are stored in the nervous system. That’s why talking about them doesn’t always shift them.

Real change happens when your body begins to feel safe enough to relate differently.

Secure Attachment Is Possible

Even if your early relationships were painful.
Even if you’ve experienced trauma.
Even if you’ve repeated the same patterns for years.

Your brain and body are capable of change.

Secure attachment can be developed in adulthood.

And when it is, relationships begin to feel:

Safer
More stable
Less reactive
More intimate
More aligned with who you truly are

If you’re ready to understand your patterns and gently transform them, I’d be honored to support you.

You deserve connection that feels steady — not confusing.
Let’s begin.

How I work with you

Sessions are available in person or online via Zoom.

My approach combines attachment theory and somatic work (you can read here what that involves). As Diane Poole Heller, founder of the DARe method, says: attachment and somatic experiencing are a match made in heaven.

Where attachment theory helps us understand relational patterns, somatic work allows the body to transform them.

Together, we will:

Help you stop feeling overwhelmed by your reactions in sensitive moments
Teach your body that it can relax in the presence of another person
Transform the tension in your shoulders, the knot in your stomach, or the sudden shutdown… into the capacity to stay present
Support you in expressing your needs without fearing you are “too much” or “not enough”
Break the cycle of pursuit, withdrawal, conflict, and guilt
Help you feel more stable, clearer, and more grounded in your relationships

This work does not only change how you understand your relationships.
It changes how you experience them.

Little by little, your nervous system learns that closeness is no longer a threat.
That you can remain yourself in relationship.
That you can love without losing yourself.

You do not become a different person.
You become a more secure version of yourself.

I also like to integrate the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) to deepen and support this process.The SSP helps the nervous system experience greater safety and regulation, which can make deeper therapeutic work more accessible and effective.

When these approaches are combined, the results are often powerful and transformative.